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Assalamualaikum and Hi All =)

I have been a working mum for the last week and IAllah for another years to come. Only now that I realize, being a mother, wife, and also an employee is not an easy task to do. I thought it was easy because my mum can do it, my MIL can do it and lots of women out there are doing it. But I guest Allah has granted women with inner spirit that make her stand all these responsibilities (+ other responsibilities) with calm.

First day at work, only Allah knows how hard it was. Lucky me that I'm working in the same office as my husband.So, he really gave me some courage to stay focus on the computer screen to revise my linux script etc. And lucky me on the first day, I was assigned to PSTM + PSDM for Tembungo 3D, so I was fully occupied and it distracts me from thinking how is Ilyaas doing at babysitter's. Every pumping sessions make me wanna fly to babysitter's house to directly bf him.during the 1st day, I managed to do two pumping sessions, while on the 2nd and 3rd day, I managed to do it three times!Alhamdulillah, rezeki Ilyaas. dpt la around 14-17oz a day.

Now that we have a kid, both my husband and I go to work by LRT and we parked our car at Sentul LRT station. So, if any of us has to do over-time or has unfinished work for the day, either one of us can go back first and fetch Ilyaas from babysitter's. Usually we leave house at 7.30am, send Ilyaas to babysitter's at 7.45am, arrive at office around 8.20-8.30am, and fetch Ilyaas at 6.15pm. Hope this schedule will be fix, at least for one of us.If not, I can't bare to leave Ilyaas longer with his babysitter.

On the first day back to work...it was so tiring and un-expected experience for both of us. We both were busy with work loads in the office and cant wait to see Ilyaas in the evening, Reach home and has to take turn for Asar prayer as Ilyaas was seeking our attention especially from his Umi. Bf Ilyaas, take bath, cook dinner,do the laundry, lipat the baju, thaw ebm for the next day, sterilized all bottles and breast pump equipments, play with Ilyaas etc etc etc...And the most tiring yet a relieving thing to do was eating while breast feed him. He wants to 'gombeng' almost all the time during the night.(Alhamdulillah for that as he still wants me rather than bottle!)and he also meragam a bit during sleeping time hence I have to stay-up till 3.30am.

Alhamdulillah, 2nd 3rd and 4th day, three of us managed to understand each of everyone role and routine better. Ilyaas understands that he has to be send to babysitter's during the morning while Umi & Ayah go to work. He also understand that once we reach home, he will search for my b***st before anything else. Feed him first before I attend other house chores. ..Alhamdulillah that 3 of us are coping well with this routine now.

btw, enough of my experience..this is a thing i want to share with all readers,

BACK2WORK CHECK-LIST

For Mother:-
1) Iron all ur baju kurung/blouse/trousers/tudung for the whole week b4 start working.
2) Get ur shoes and socks ready in front of the door night before.
3) Sort all bags on table/cabinet so u won't forget any.
4) check ur breast pump bag.I only bring my Medela bag, no more handbag to office.
5) put ice pack in the freezer 1 day before and don't forget to put it in chiller bag morning b4 go to work.
6) put empty bottles(i use 4 bottles a day) for pumping sessions.
7) ur nursing poncho/nursning cover.
8)NAME TAG! and Touch & Go card(with money inside) for those who travel via LRT/or use highway.
9)Doctor's MC sheet/ confirmation letter that u were on confinement for 2months(3 for some)


For Baby:-
1) One bag to be send to babysitter's (with pampers,towel, blanket,2 day suits/wear, 1 evening/night wear, booties and mittens, bottle etc)
2) Thaw breastmilk. For now, Ilyaas drink 5x2oz during the hours I left him with babysitter's. (I also leave extra frozen milk at babysitter's house)
3)Baby Mattress + Pillows.
4)Baby Grooming Set (body wash/lotion/minyak telon/nappy rash cream etc)
5) Print information about EBM management and storage info for use of babysitter.
6) List of ur contact numbers (+ ur husband's) for babysitter.




*I should make a proper list for this*

Baby Gadget : Little Bean Voice Activated Crib Light

Brand:Little Bean
Function: This crib Light helps to soothe your baby to sleep with Mozart Music & Rainforest Sound. The Soft Night light will on automatically when your baby cries.Got timer to help us stop the music if we are already asleep.
Price: RM24.90

masa jalan2 kat sogo last Thursday, terjumpe la dgn this wonderful gadget. sgt berguna sbb baru beberapa hari guna, mmg berkesan menidurkan Ilyaas or at least buat Ilyaas tak nangis bila letak dkt baby cot dia.

After habis nyot2 malam2, I will put Ilyaas on his cot sambil tu dah pasang lagu Mozart from the gadget, tak sampai few minutes, mesti Ilyaas dah khayal2 nak tidur.tp sometime, Ilyaas still wants to sleep sambil mengombeng kopek umi dia.kalau bukak lagu rainforest, lambt sket Ilyaas nak tidur.sometime, my husband n me yg tertidur dulu while Ilyaas kat tgh2 kitaorg..

so kesimpulannya, gadget ni sgt berguna.tak rugi beli.kalau ada yg boleh bacakan ayat quran lagi bagus.

me going back to work, Ilyaas going to stay with babysitter....

UPDATE PASAL PENGASUH DI AREA SENTUL

KLIK LINK INI

http://cheerisheverycherry.blogspot.com/2014/03/tips-cari-pengasuh-area-sentul-or.html


the title can explain all already. i know and believe that all ladies (or at least mothers) understand this feeling. sgt menyayat hati and mendukacita kan apabila terpaksa menghantar anak yg kita kandungkan selama 9bulan lebih dok carry pi ke hulu ke hilir dalam perut kita, pastu dah bersalin kita jaga pagi petang siang malam sampai umur dia 60 hari, tiba2 nak kena hantar dia ke pengasuh ( tu kira nasib baik hantar ke pengasuh, kalau hantar nursery lagi laaa mendukacitakan)...ni sama la mcm mengadai nyawa sendiri kan?
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ADUHAI
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tapi nak buat mcm mana kan..?? hmm...alkisah nya la, on day 47 and 48after bersalin, en suami dan saya keluar survey nursery dkt apartment melur and mawar sebelah rumah ni.kitaorg pegi tgk 2nursery...

Nursery 1:first word: ConSiderable. baby 2mnths-2yrs diletakkan dalam satu rumah. baby yg belum boleh jalan letak dalam satu bilik (max 4org satu pengasuh).semua baby diletakkan dalam playpen masing2. ada mainan gantung2 dkt playpen tu. so kita ok. dorg amik EBM dan tau cara nak uruskan EBM.budak2 dah pandai jalan duduk kat ruang tamu tgk tv..makanan semua parents kena sediakn.pengasuh hanya jaga.rate dia RM320 from 7.30am-6.30pm.after 6.30pm kira overtime RM5/hr. budak2 transit and 3yrs ke atas diletak kan dalam satu rumah kat tingkat bawah.nampak ok.nursery bersih dah kemas. (tp ada satu imej budak kecik hingus meleleh duduk dalam playpen tu dok pandang muka saya telah melekat dlm kepala ni menyebabkan ada rs berat hati nak hantar Ilyaas ke nursery ni + masa naik lif dgr budak jerit panggil ABAH ABAH ABAH sbb tak nak pegi nursery-->mengalir air mata ni sayuuuuu)

Nursery 2: Hampeh. Jgn Hantar.sebabnya, sampai2 sy n husband masuk ke tempat baby..lantai sedikit licin sbb baru di mop (mmg lantai bersih berkilat, tp licin tu x berapa bagus la, ramai budak2 kan, so kalau budak2 ni tergelincir macam mana? ).... sampai tpt baby, saya tergamam terkesima terkedu dan segala ter la lagi sbb ada sorg baby (dlm 3-4 bln mcm tu) dok struggle nak keluarkan puting yg telah diplaster dgn selotape )..bayangkan la mata budak tu dok terjegil2 dgn mulut dok muncung2 struggling to throw the pacifier..Ya Allah, sampai hati selotape mulut budak tu dgn puting, kok ya pun budak tu kuat nangis, there must be other way to tackle it!) dkt sbelah budak tu pulak ada sorg baby sebaya Ilyaas kot, tidur nyenyak.ok la mcm tu. sblh budak tu pulak ada baby tgh meniarap nangis selak2 meleleh air mata tp takde sapa nak attend,,bayangkan dlm gate tu ada 8 baby yg diletakan atas tilam nipis tanpa seorang pun pengasuh sbb pengasuh2 yg ada dok sibuk sambut baby +budak2 yg baru sampai (sy pegi nursery ni pukul 8pagi ye fyi), ada yg dok masak menu sarapan pagi, ada yg cuci toilet dan sedang mengemop.tanpa sebarang bicara, my husband and me terus keluar. NO way la nak hantar Ilyaas pegi nursery ni.. btw harga dia RM330 per month ye.

lepas tu, sy tak give up.masih terus mencari ..

pergi Nursery dkt Flat Bandar Baru sentul...tp dorg tak nak amik baby dah sbb dah penuh. so x masuk la ke dalam nursery jadi xleh komen panjang2.

dgn hampanya sy pun berjalan la keliling flat2 bandar baru sentul tu sampai terjumpa seorang mak cik bawa troli balik dr pasar...sy pun dgn ringan mulut tanya makcik tu kot2 la dia tau sapa2 nak jadi pengasuh baby. terus dia ckp pegi tgk tingkat 14 pintu no 2...naik la lif nak ke tingkat 14..jumpa satu lagi makcik bawa baby dlm stroller.tanya la dia pasal pengasuh(sbb ingtkan dia mengasuh rupanya tu cucu dia)..dia kabo pegi tingkat 8..dia siap hantar ke tingkat 8.tp makcik kat tingkat 8 tu xnak jaga baby, dia nak jaga budak2 yg dh 3-4 thn mcm tu..pasrah je la..sbb muka tak malu pagi2 (dgn tak mandi lagi) pegi ketuk2 pintu rumah orang tny nak mengasuh budak x...
naik la tingkat 14.cari rumah no 2 tak jumpa sbb tak reti baca address dkt pintu tu..jumpa satu couple india tgh sembahyang kat tokong dorg dpn pintu rumah dorg...so tanya la mana pintu no 2 tu, rupanya tu jiran dia..al-kisah la makcik tu terus bukak pintu dan jemput saya masuk dalam rumah dia...sembang punya sembang, bincang punya bincang, maka ALHAMDULILLAH saya dah jumpa calon pengasuh yg sesuai utk Ilyaas. paling penting makcik ni pembersih, pernah dan pandai jaga baby serta mahu menjaga baby sbb boring takde org kalau anak dia pegi sekolah. dan sudi membantu saya buat exclusive breast feeding.

so hari ni iaitu lagi 5 hari utk sy masuk kerja, sy pun test hantar Ilyaas duduk separuh hari dgn mak cik tu.nak nangis masa hantar tadi.pastu pukul 9 pagi tgh dok pump susu Ilyaas rs sebak sayu sbb rasa mcm Ilyaas tgh lapar2 (tp saya dah bekalkan 8oz susu utk Ilyaas kat makcik tu).pukul 10 call ayah Ilyaas tanya nak call makcik tu bleh tak sbb sgt2 dok terpikir pasal Ilyaas. Ayah Ilyaas kabo tak yah, saya terus nangis..sobs2..call mak saya tny benda yg sama, mak saya pun tak bagi.sobs2 juga la...takpela, sy pun pegi shopping kat jalan tar dan sogo cari baju kurung baru + brang2 baby + pegi lunch kat klcc dgn ayah Ilyaas.balik terus gi rumah mak cik tu utk amik Ilyaas.Alhamdulillah Ilyaas sleep masa tu.pastu nangis nak susu n sy bagi direct je sbb dah engorge ..then balik rumah..ni Ilyaas tgh sleep tertonggek macam cik awa dia.

moral of the story are-->

1) kalau nak hantar nursery, kena survey betul2..n kena check betul2.sbb kalau tak nayaaaaa anak kita
2) bukan senang nak let go anak kita bagi orang jaga meanwhile kita pi kerja.mmg menguji iman sbb ikut hati nak bawa anak dalam beg medela pastu seludup masuk office ..tp office kt klcc, pagi2 kena scan..payah payah....
3) Mudah mudahan Allah permudahkan urusan Ilyaas dijaga oleh mak cik pengasuh dan permudahkan urusan Umi dan Ayah Ilyaas nak kerja cari rezeki utk keluarga kita.Amin.


these eyes that keep stealing my attention in doing other things


UPDATE PASAL PENGASUH DI AREA SENTUL

KLIK LINK INI

http://cheerisheverycherry.blogspot.com/2014/03/tips-cari-pengasuh-area-sentul-or.html

Alhamdulillah

bersyukur dgn rezeki Allah utk my little angle...
harap2 dah masuk kerja nnt still can teruskan usaha murni nak breastfeed Ilyaas..

Happy Mother's Day

I'm officially celebrating my very first Mother's Day for myself as I am already a mum for 44 days now!

and still, warm wishes to My Mum Jamilah Mohd Sutan, I never see an ending with your love. Thank You for pampering and spoiling me till I become who I am today. Your pampering and spoiling does make me a person with courage and determination. I love You sampai bila-bila, now that I know how hard to deliver a person into this world.

and also Happy Mother's Day to my MIL, Wan Hafsah Wan Mohamad. thank you for sharing your love with me for nearly 1 year now.

I love these three mothers so much...(me,my mum, and my mother-in-law)

<(my mum and me during my graduation day, Australia 2009)

MIL and me + SIL

(saya---> the new mother)

immunization vaccine for your kids?

which one is better, giving the immunization at Klinik Kesihatan Ibu dan Anak or at Hospital Swasta?


I have few pro and cons regarding this...

Klinik Kesihatan Ibu dan Anak
1) Free of charge (pro)
2) Kids will get their immunization card which will make it easier when they register for government school later on (standard government health care for child card)(pro)
3)Has to be on weekdays. Hence either my husband or I have to take a day/half day leave to bring the kid to the clinic (cons)
4)Vaccination schedule not complete...ex: no Pneumococcal C vaccination in government standard vaccination scheme for the infant. (cons)


Hospital Swasta
1)its chargeable (cons)
2) can be done on weekend. so, we don't have to take leave for this.(pro)
3) vaccination scheme is more complete + we can decide which vaccine we want for the kid.(pro)
4) still got the book/card for the vaccination but will be a bit different from what we get in government clinic.(but I believe its still valid for school registration and further deals later on)(pro is it?)


Malaysian Government Vaccination Schedule

Ilyaas dah pandai merajuk

it was 3.30am last night when Ilyaas poo-poo.. He has been wake up since 1.00am (after sleeping at 12am) and not going back to sleep since then. so, just imagine how sleepy am I that moment.

after breastfeed,some play-talk with him, I thought he's going back to sleep but not until 3.45am...when he poo-poo, I who was in the climax of mengantuk,so I did raise up my voice a bit by saying..." Ilyaas, kenapaaaaaa ni? "....

Guest what? He cried loudly sampai muka semua jadi merah..sampai my husband terbangun from tidur...Ilyaas menangis selak sebab umi dia naik kan suara sikit...terus merajuk dgn umi..

after kena dukung n pujuk2 baru Ilyaas senyap balik..tp time breast feed after poo-poo Ilyaas buat muka sebek (kata orang utara) sbb merajuk dgn umi...sampai la tertidur while breastfeeding...

tp rasa kesian jugak dkt Ilyaas sbb he can now understand what umi said sampai boleh merajuk macam tu..and terus tidur dlm muka sebek tu..oh sayang, umi loves u.bukan nya umi marah pun...